Can anyone share their experiences with dating someone with a serious drug addiction?

Paige K
#1. August 28th, 2009, at 12:50 AM.

Break up with him.

If you have been seeing the same guy for 2 and a half years and you find that he has a “secret” life that he’s told you nothing about, then there is not enough commincation/trust between you.

Niki N
#2. August 28th, 2009, at 10:09 AM.

my mother was with someone with an addiction for 9 years . Manipulation and abuse was what he used to get his way and made her get a job 2 support his ciggarett, coffee,drug addiction. I would watch him all the time like a baby because he had seizures from all that stuff all day every day he went through a 20 packs every 2-3 days.the men never ate or slept from the coffee and ciggaretts. he aged poorly. he was so mentally abusive to my family that my mother almost slipped into it ..she fell for his lies oh hes a changed man now.nope… shes fine now and found the will to get away. in the end unless this man wants to help himself then dont trust him dont get invovled exspecally if you have kids…..if you think he can do it just wait and see he needs help…good luck

Kakrine
#3. August 29th, 2009, at 8:03 PM.

I was with my ex boyrfriend for nearly 5 years. I knew of his drug use in the past but I was nieve and ignorant to the idea that he was still doing hardcore drugs behind my back. I wanted to believe him when he said he was done with that and I did. Until I would randomly would find burnt lightbulbs and crack pipes in our house. We did have roommates that were friends of his so they were easy to point the blame on for him. As our realtionship progressed he became more open with what he was doing but he wouldn’t be honest about how often. He was into doing anything and everything and even started getting me into it as well. Until it came to the point where he decided to introduce heroin to me. This was perfect for him because he had gotton me hooked and he didn’t have to hide it, only he’d hide our share and keep it to himself. I believed that I loved him with all my heart that I was willing to jump into this addiction with ease. It was well over a year towards the end of our relationship that we had both became addicts. Luckily I have a family that loves me and got me the help that I needed. I got away from him and the drugs, as for him, I’m sure he’s still into one thing or another. Anyways, it’s not a healthy relationship to be with someone who is into drugs, if you let them, they will pull you into it as well. If you really care for him, try to help him out with getting him into more programs and make sure he surrounds himself in a positive environment! Best of luck hun.

toomuch
#4. August 30th, 2009, at 4:27 AM.

let that be a warning for you The addiction disease is a toxic to everyone around the addict,as nice as that person may be…. you need to be checked for all blood borne type infection s if you had any intimate relations ever with him. Then every 6mo for a while get retested since it may not show on the first test. use all the recommended protection for any new relationship or just hold off until you have enough proof of not being infected w/anything that could be passed on to a new person. The addict may never tell you his/her infections as their addiction is like oxygen to them, they will do nothing to endanger the possibility of being able to get drug money in the future by maintaining old relationships as long as they can-using relatives and friends and other unsuspecting victims to get it before having to turn to crime on strangers who are more likely to be suspicious. They hate themselves after wards, and may commit suicide because of the guilt they may feel when sober, but it still won’t stop the disease from progressing. They may get into recovery but it is lifelong and there is no saying when it could come back-ruining lives around them as well. Go to an alonon meeting if you need to get more info about enabling and addictions in general.
. I would then move on and not ever go back to that person, it will be a lifelong struggle for him and no cure, and you can lose your health and sanity and ..well, everything-everything meaning they can steal from you, use you r identity when desperate so change any bank acct num,bers or PIN numbers you may have had when with him, they may have snooped into your things and know info like mothers maiden name etc and can then open accts in your name, saying you “moved”-knowing enough info about you and address etc) Do not confrant them ou would only get drama and denials about it, just take action to protect yourself NOW. Congrats- you may now be a bit older and wiser.

EZMZ
#5. August 30th, 2009, at 10:42 PM.

It has been my experience not first hand but from watching others that it would be your best bet to find a new boyfriend———one who will be honest with you.

^nez^
#6. September 2nd, 2009, at 3:19 PM.

Try to refer this one to him.. I found it in the internet. I guess this can help him